Problems of children and parents. How to solve the problem with parents? Get rid of the parental programs in yourself and stop making it a problem. Connecting with chldren. How to get rid of the problem of children and parents?
Parental Programms in Children
There are many people who never let go of the problem of children and parents. For them, the very fact that they are involved in parental programs is a kind of justification for their own inactivity. After all, it is a very convenient formulation for the subconscious: “I could do nothing when my parents were my patrons. I was small and did not know how to do anything, I was not capable of anything, so I am not to blame”.
What should a healthy consciousness do in this case? It will look at the parent in a complex, select only those elements that are to its advantage, take them, discard all the others that are insignificant, and create a new image of its parent, which it will set up as an idol for itself. There is harm in this approach, but it is less than if the parent is a real monster that you have to deal with every day.
Both approaches are absurd. Parents are just people. They gave birth to you as a human being to another human being. And they don’t owe you anything else.
Resentment towards one’s parents is only based on expectations imposed by cultural attitudes: what parents should do to their children, what children should do to their parents. All this is an artificially created problem that occupies a person’s entire consciousness, takes time to solve only this problem, and therefore does not allow time to be directed elsewhere.
You can try as hard as you like to get rid of parental problems, but you will never get rid of them. There is no solution to this problem as long as it is a problem. So you have to stop making it a problem and use your mind. You should look at your parents from a different point of view. Your parent is just a person with his own set of problems, possibilities and impossibilities.
When a person grows up, he looks back at his parents and brings up his children in the same way as his parents did. He copies them, or he does the opposite, and he harms his children. And we would not attach such importance to this case if it were not for cultural reasons – now there is a fashion for solving such problems. But two hundred years ago there was no such thing. When a person was 14 or 15 years old, they were set free. And it did not matter what class a person was: peasant or noble. It was just decided that at a certain age every child had to start a life of their own. In those days, nobody had anything against their parents. But now the problem of children and parents has become an issue on which you can make a lot of money.
How to solve the problem with parents?
Before you identify a problem, think about it and ask yourself the question: “Who benefits from this problem? Who benefits from me spending the time of my life not on my future, not on the future of my children, but on thinking about the problems of my childhood that nobody needs any more?” Instead of investing time in the future, you start investing it in the past. And you have nothing left for the future. All this is not your fault, but a misfortune. Your problem is not that you are spending your time wrongly, but that you are following the fashion of solving parental problems. For now it has become fashionable to think about psychological problems connected with parents. Moreover, the consciousness begins to regress to that childish state. And a person can expect nothing but regret and sympathy from others, especially if he talks about his parents and his childhood problems.
Right now your parents are old and unhappy people who want to survive. Look at them with different eyes. They’re acting according to a programme they once had. And they’re not going to do anything about that program. They are unhappy because that’s all they have. That’s why parents feel a great need to impose their program, to implant it in the consciousness of their children or in the consciousness of anybody. Because otherwise they cannot leave any trace of themselves in this world.
So should we expect them to act sensibly or to help us? Your parents are people of program, people of function.
Maybe they should have been like that so that you, who saw them yesterday, would come to the Menshikova School today!
Additional Information:
- AD LIB Department – Magic in Questions and Answers
- AD LIB Department – Workshop ‘Parental Programs’
- Forum “Magic United” – Magic: Questions and answers
- Admission. Beginnig of education
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Videos:
- If parents didn’t want a child
- Parents for their children: A blessing of a punishment?
- Childish offence. Why do children get offended?
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